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“Life As A Divorced Dad” is for anyone who has struggled with becoming a single parent through divorce. The goal of this blog is not to vent nor is it meant to focus on anything negative. The sole purpose of this blog is to provide a positive support and to offer suggestions on how to approach each day with a positive outlook and provide your children with an environment that will help them through, what for many, is an incredibly difficult adjustment.

My ex-wife and I made a commitment at the beginning of our divorce process, to put the children first and assure them that they had nothing to do with what was happening and that their needs would be met no matter what. We also committed ourselves and each other to assuring them that they would receive all of the love and support from their parents that they had grown accustomed to.

Each day I’ll share my experiences and tips I learn along the way. I’ll also be happy to share readers tips from time to time. All of which is meant to be a simple way of letting you know you’re not alone and to let you know, you’re going to be fine.

I should note. This blog is not meant to encourage those struggling in a weakened marriage to pull the plug. I would never do that. My ex-wife and I went through every possible step to save our marriage before coming to the final decision to call it quits. If I had my choice it would have been to keep the full family unit in tact and that would have been my ex-wife’s choice as well. But as it stood it was not a good environment for anyone involved including our children. It also became obvious it would never get to that point either. My first words of advice, if you’re still in a marriage, is to do everything you can to save it.

And now … in the words of comedian Scott LaRose, it’s time to acknowledge and move on.

 

6 responses to “About

  1. Tracey West

    December 12, 2012 at 2:50 am

    I really do understand where you’re coming from with this body of work. How lovely to meet you. I too have thrown light on the dark…looking forward to smiling with you somewhere. All the very best, Tracey

     
  2. DaddyD

    April 22, 2013 at 10:13 pm

    I want to thank you for your posts. As a divorced Dad of 2 (a boy and girl, both under 10), I also share 50/50 custody. I am new to this, the struggle of being a working single half-time dad, and your posts have provided sound advice, that I truly appreciate. I have even embraced (i.e., stolen) some of your routines (e.g., tea with dad) and I am thankful to know that I have “brothers” out there fighting the good fight and doing the right thing. Lord knows it ain’t easy, but, with thoughtful awareness of our parenting efforts (the failures and victories) and a positive outlook – good times await. Every day is an opportunity to sink into depression or to learn and grow – most days, I am walking the right path and your posts are a big help in keeping me on track. Best of luck to you, Dan

     
  3. Vidal Cisneros Jr.

    June 13, 2014 at 11:31 pm

    Greetings,

    I’m glad and grateful to hear you and your co-parent partner are making the most of the situation
    for the sake of your children. As a shared placement divorced Dad to another, I can say that blogs like this are needed and were far few and in between when I was going through my ordeal.

    I commend you and I would like to share any insights I have gained. As well as, the ups and downs of the journey of being now divorced over 4 years and having gone through a separation and divorce that was anything remotely close to normal and how all the worst of times… has created the most incredible times that I could have never ever imagined.

    I commend your efforts and as a warrior of the light I try my best to live by this quote:

    “Instead of waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel, be the light that lights everyone on fire.”

    Great job with your blog and would enjoy to hear back from you.

    Wishing you and yours all the best!

    Warmest regards,

    Vidal Cisneros Jr.

     
    • divorced dad

      June 14, 2014 at 9:50 am

      Such a wonderful comment to wake up to. Thank you Vidal. As I stress in my blog, it’s important that we not walk this journey alone. It’s a tough one and sometimes just the knowledge that someone else has blazed the trail before you and survived is enough to get you through another day. Please don’t be a stranger. Would love to get your take from time to time.

       
  4. Pete Montacute

    October 9, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    I found your blog probably about 6 months ago and have been a pretty active reader since. I myself separated from my wife in June 2011 and finalized out divorce in May 2014. We have a 6 years old daughter together. Since separating 3 years ago I have been writing all my thoughts, feelings, etc. I have kept it all private and to myself. Reading your posts over the past few months has inspired me to show everything I’ve written. It was always a great outlet for me to get the thoughts, feelings, anger, frustrations out by writing, but never felt it was okay to share that stuff with the world around me. Thank you for making me realize that it’s okay for me to open up to the world and thank you for making me realize that I’m definitely not alone.

     
  5. L.J. Burke (@kidsareforever1)

    February 19, 2016 at 11:22 am

    It’s good to have this forum. My divorce was a battle of epic proportions and the sad truth was it really didn’t have to be. I wrote a book, “Divorced Dad Kids are Forever, Wives are Not” that has my story and lots of good advise. I believe it would prove very helpful for guys going through this process. If anybody is interested I would be willing to offer a $5.00 Amazon gift card for a verified purchase with a review. Thank you and good luck to everybody that has gone through or is still in the middle of this life changing event.

     

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