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Common Sense Jart Legislation!

It still amazes me that after a number of children and adults were injured by these little suckers, they were banned by our government. No regulations or restrictions on purchasing. Went straight to an all out ban on the sale of any kind. In fact, it was proclaimedlawn-darts-substitute-1 in legislation that all existing Jarts should be destroyed.

Conversely, a far larger number of children have been injured or killed playing with a firearm and it turns into a huge heated debate and battle over “rights” when you even consider any kind of discussion on the topic of establishing sensible guidelines and regulations to provide some sense of safety.

I’ve thrown a Jart and fired a shotgun. Both are pretty dangerous in their own right. Both are also fine if handled correctly and sensibly in the proper setting. (Throwing a Jart straight up in the air during a family picnic when I was seven was obviously in poor judgement).

One is banned and deemed unfit for human use (without so much as one mass Jarting) while the other continues to flourish despite daily reports of harmful outcomes. Doesn’t that seem a bit out of whack and speak to the overtly political and financially charged nature of the topic. Could it be, regardless of which side of the argument you’re on, that we as a society continually allow our egos and fears to cloud our ability to reason and judge appropriately?

I mean come on:

  • Kids ends up in hospital with head / brain injuries from Jart = Banned Toy
  • Kids end up in hospitals or graves after accidentally shooting themselves or a playmate = Decades long debate and billions of dollars spent supporting each side of an argument on firearm regulations

Both scenarios seem like unreasonably extreme reactions.(I personally dread the day I’m arrested for the Jart I have concealed under my bed to protect my family from intruders.) Surely somewhere in the middle is a common sense solution. (For both Jarts AND firearms)

 
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Posted by on June 28, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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Be The Dad

Be The Dad

I received a few messages from several of you asking, “Where’d you go?”, “You haven’t posted in a while, you ok?,” and the simple answer is, all good. I’ve started no fewer than twenty new posts that for one reason or another I didn’t finish. I think that once I found myself repeating myself from posts a few years old I started to wonder what was next. What messages could I provide and what topics could I cover that I had yet to delve into?

To that end, for the past six months I’ve contemplated where I’m going with this blog. It’s been over five years since I started writing and the experience has been amazing. But I’ve always believed that everything must evolve. So where was I headed? What was next?

Then last week I found myself heading to Buffalo to say goodbye to my own father who had just turned 93 and had been suffering from dementia. The decease was in its final stages 12400442_10154457866442908_1873714818408639097_nand by the time I’d hit the road he had entered hospice and had stopped taking nutrients. During the 12 hour drive I thought a lot about my father and my experiences with him. I also considered my own life as a dad. And I thought about all of you. And I thought about stories I’d read about kids who didn’t have a father figure growing up for one reason or another.

The underlying thought I kept coming back to was the fact that my dad was there. Right or wrong, good or bad, brilliant or misguided, my dad was there. He wasn’t the kind of dad who came to track meets or came to see my band play. But he was there as a father. He was an influential part of my life and there was no question … he was the dad. He was a foundation and a rock for me to build my character and self image upon.

That, as it turned out, was the inspiration I was looking for. Along with encouraging readers to stay positive and to focus on the kids, I wanted to start encouraging men to “Be the Dad.” Be that rock. Be that foundation. Kids desperately need a father figure. They need that guidance. A single mom can fill a lot of roles, but I’m a firm believer that every boy needs a strong fatherly influence to help him build his character and self image. And every young lady should have the opportunity to grow up with a strong understanding male influence who will provide her with a reference of how she should be treated by men.

And so, in the coming weeks I hope to start a new video blog encouraging men to “Be the Dad.” Even if it’s not your own kid, be the dad to someone you know doesn’t have one. Be the positive, be the root. Growing up I had several father figures. Along with my father I had brothers-in-law who were like big brothers and each of them influenced me in different ways. I would not be the same person I am without their guidance and time.

I know your situation may make it harder than some, but know that every moment you spend on your son or daughter is pure gold. Every text of encouragement. Every call. Every visit. Every second you have with them is invaluable. Sometimes all it is is a mindset. Visualize yourself as “The Dad!” Remind yourself, “I’m the dad!” Because you are. And it’s a gift like none other.

I said goodbye to my dad last week. There will be characteristics of his that I will carry with me and pass down to my own kids of course. But the one thing that I’ll always remember is, he took his role as father very seriously. He was there. Always. And I’ll always thank him for that.

And so moving forward, I hope to encourage each and every one of you to, if nothing else, “Be the Dad.”

 

 

 
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Posted by on June 21, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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