These Rose Coloured Glasses

05 Sep

There are times I sit back flabbergasted by how much life can overwhelm me. It’s so cyclical. By now you’d think I’d grow accustomed to the ebbs and flows, the ups and downs and recognize the patterns. You’d think that by now I’d know not to worry. That I always manage to find a way to make things work. That the world is not against me and to trust the cosmos.

Unfortunately I’m human. I worry. I stress. I lose sleep. I hurt. I panic.

I’ve heard it said that God only gives you what you can handle. As much as I appreciate his faith in me, there are times I wish he’d just give me a day or two to regroup and recharge.

And yet we keep going.

Personally I survive by looking for ways to laugh at the absurdity that can become my life at times. I may have to scour sometimes, but when it all seems to be falling apart, I scrounge for a little sunshine to focus on and get me to the next horizon.

I’ve been told I can tend to look at the world through rose coloured glasses. But honestly, I feel fortunate to be able to find so much positive and beauty in what can otherwise be a negative and ugly world at times. If we aren’t searching for and recognizing the joy around us, all we’re left with is the hurt and misery. I believe that what our world is and what it’s overall make up is, is completely up to us. If we choose to focus on the negatives and allow our stresses to consume us, then that’s what we’ll see and be forced to live with.

That’s not to say we shouldn’t have a sense of reality and be prepared for life. Obviously we can’t just go through life without a care or without planning ahead and denoting a sense of structure. But I am convinced that happy people are those who are able to see past the bull shit and see the beauty. Those he can see the possibilities no matter how unrealistic they may appear. I’m convinced and have always preached that it’s the unrealistic who create a new reality. So, if you’re finding yourself focused on the negative and stressed over what appears to be a very dark and desperate landscape, perhaps you’re actually looking through a pair of rose coloured glasses that have cracked or are simply caked over with too much of life’s grime and merely need a good cleaning.


Posted by on September 5, 2014 in Daily Life, Divorce


6 responses to “These Rose Coloured Glasses

  1. mommasunshine

    September 5, 2014 at 2:11 pm

    This is a great post and I couldn’t agree more. Being happy is a choice; it’s a choice to focus more on the positives in life rather than the negatives. I have a great story about this, in fact.

    About 15-ish years or so ago, an elderly family friend was in the hospital. She had fallen and broken a hip, which at her advancing years was a serious injury. Now, this lady (she has since passed away), was probably one of the most positive people I’d ever met, despite having had a difficult life (raising a large family without a lot of money, having a not-very-nice husband that she then cared for as he grew increasingly ill and died from Alzheimer’s).

    I decided to go visit her in the hospital one night after work. I arrived around dinnertime, when her tray of sketchy-looking hospital food was just arriving.

    “Ugh. Hospital food.” I commented. (Keeping in mind that at this point she’d been in the hospital for some time and must be getting pretty sick of the hospital food).

    “Ah, well, it’s not that bad. The rice pudding is really good!” She giggled.

    I think about that story all the time. The fact that this woman had much she COULD have complained about, legitimately, but instead chose to focus on the one very small bright spot in her life right then. It was eye opening and showed me that there’s always something good to find in every situation.

    • divorced dad

      September 5, 2014 at 3:04 pm

      What an awesome story! Thank you so much for sharing.

  2. Brian D

    September 5, 2014 at 2:34 pm

    Great post. I’ve realized that I tend to see everything negatively and often feel like the world is a dark and angry place intent on devouring me, but I know you’re right and it’s my perception that needs an adjustment. Thanks for the encouraging words.

    • divorced dad

      September 5, 2014 at 3:03 pm

      Thanks for the follow Brian and the response. Always great to hear when a post connects with someone.

  3. Pat Rooney

    September 6, 2014 at 1:00 pm

    Spot on! I am accused of wearing those rosy glasses too, but hey, they do cut the ugly glare, as you said. Isn’t that why we wear sunglasses?

  4. divorced dad

    September 6, 2014 at 2:01 pm

    I believe it’s the glasses that allow us to see past the curtain and imagine what’s possible. They are what allow us to dream and envision things we’d otherwise not be able to. They serve a purpose in giving us hope when we may not see any.


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