The Gravity of the Situation

07 Jun

I finally got around to watching “Gravity” last night, the story of two astronauts stranded in space when debris from a smashed satellite smashes into their space shuttle leaving them floating helplessly on their own with air supplies running low and no immediate obvious plan of action to get back on the solid ground.

Sound familiar divorced dad?

When you first get divorced, everything you’ve come to trust as secure and safe is shattered. In many cases, you may have had a bit of a warning, but still felt blindsided. You turn around and your world is
turned upside down. You truly do feel left floating untethered to anything, completely disoriented and sucking for air convinced it’s going to be your last breathe. You panic, using even more oxygen as you attempt to stop yourself from spinning helplessly out of control.

You have two choices my friend. You can either cling to the debris that is now your life, hoping by some miracle you’ll be able to put it all back together with some duct tape and kite string. OR you can venture out into the unknown to find help and a new beginning. Living amongst the debris sucks. You know as well as I do, that attempting to piece it all back together may seem like a good idea at first, but eventually you realize you need a different plan of attack.

So you stop and suddenly realize you’re faced with the prospect of letting it all go. That is scary as hell. And it’s not going to be easy. But at some point you recognize staying behind is no longer an option.That pivotal moment when you release everything you’ve come to know as reality is a leap of faith that will cause even the strongest person a moment of panic. But stay strong. You’re in for quite a journey. Like the astronauts, think of it as your mission. You’ve been put in this position and it’s really up to you to decide whether you’re going to let your circumstances dictate your future or if you’re going to take steps to put yourself back on solid ground. Do what you need to catch your breathe, and when you’re ready, align yourself with the sun and start moving forward. After that, just take it one step at a time and keep your cool always keeping yourself pointed toward your new north star.



Posted by on June 7, 2014 in Divorce, Uncategorized


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2 responses to “The Gravity of the Situation

  1. Earl

    June 10, 2014 at 2:44 am

    Hey Bill, I haven’t seen the movie yet, but I really like your analogy. The idea of “letting go” can be so foreign when you’re trying desperately to keep it together. It’s not until you release, and as you pointed out, align to your reality that you can start to move forward.

    Keep up the great work.

    • divorced dad

      June 10, 2014 at 7:43 am

      Thanks Earl!

      Highly recommend the movie btw …


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