Today I’m here to simply remind you of the importance of surrounding yourself with supportive, positive people who truly get you.
You are going to have times when you feel as though you are being crushed by the pressures of your life. You are going to have moments when it all seems insurmountable. You will experience times when you feel completely isolated and alone. I assure you, the secret is to NOT be isolated and alone. Even if your marriage sucked; somehow you still felt part of a team, albeit a dysfunctional one. You still had that other person in the house. Now it’s just you. Just you to deal with the house, the finances, the kids, the groceries, the laundry, the yard; all of it. Just you. And sometimes it’s simply too much. One way or another, it’s important to step away for a moment and give your soul a respite. Quite often I jump in my Jeep, put the top down and just ride through the country to get way from it all. The secret is to remind ourselves that there’s a whole other world out there. What makes those rides even better though is knowing that even when we’re alone, we’re not. Dark, cold, negative worlds are a horrible place to exist in by yourself. Life is going to naturally throw all kinds of negativity at you on a weekly, daily and sometimes hourly basis. And during those moments, sometimes it’s not necessarily having the ability to call someone and say, “URRRGG” that helps so much as it is just knowing you have someone you COULD call. Knowing that somehow they’re there with you in spirit.
If you haven’t already done so, reach out to people. Be human. Be connected. Surround yourself with others, even if just in spirit. And not only when you may need someone. Often the best medicine for what you need, is being there for someone else who needs. Obviously when your world is in a state of complete chaos, that can be a very difficult thing to do, but it’s worth it. It actually does your soul good to step away from your own mess from time to time and sit across from another human and just be there to listen. But it all starts with you taking steps to surround yourself with others who understand your world, want to be there for you and may need you just as much as you need them.
You’re going to slip into the abyss once in a while. You’re going to lock the door and close the blinds and curl up on the couch determined to shut the world out until the storm blows over. And honestly, sometimes we all just need to do that once in a while. But don’t make a habit of it. Give yourself a chance to recharge and then push yourself at all cost to step outside your comfort zone and be with people. You may get a text from someone inviting you to sit down for a cup of coffee. And you may be in a state of mind of just wanting to be by yourself for a moment. Once in a while respond with, “Sure thing … be there in 10.”
Listen, I promise you, Facebook is a lie. Everyone’s life is not that rosy. Everyone is experiencing their own pain, their own struggles and their own hardships. It may be a relationship issue, a health issue, a family issue, financial issue or any number of things. But we all wake up with something that’s not perfect. Some days I’m tempted to start a new service called “Realbook” where people post pictures and updates about what’s REALLY going on in their lives that they’d rather you not know about.
The point is, you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing so don’t attempt to go it alone. Search out blogs like this one and people who are in the same boat as you are. Read books about what you’re experiencing. Educate yourself. The very act of taking steps to make it better will help. Now more than ever you need positive energy in your life. Search it out. Lose the negatives and focus on lifting yourself up by providing your soul with support rather than people and things that knock you down.
One way or another you’re going to make it through today. You can either get to the end of it being scared, frustrated and in a mode of panic, or you can choose to open up to others and make an effort to make things better. I promise you there are people there who want to help, who want to listen and need to be heard. People just like you. In all likelihood you’ve already said hello to a dozen of them today.