As someone who has spent their entire life creating, it came as no surprise that the experience of going through a divorce would lead to some sort of creative expression beyond the blog. While going through my own experience, a songwriter friend of mine was watching several other friends go through the same thing. So one day last October we sat down and penned a song about relationships that come to an end.
Other friends of mine that I’ve worked with on various projects joined in and low and behold, we came up with this.
While I’ve come to terms with so many aspects of the past year, and am proud of the relationship my ex-wife and I share, there is no denying that the process of a divorce is a painful one. It can leave a person feeling lonely, depressed, insecure, the list goes on. We all need to find our way of dealing with the pain and negativity associated with the loss of a relationship two people have worked so hard to build. For me personally it was writing, both this blog and music. For you it may be painting or the simple act of walking more often. Regardless, I think it’s important that we find ways of coping with this sort of pain that allow us to release the negativity and focus on the positives. As I mentioned in my previous post, reflecting sometimes forces you to take a good hard look at yourself. We may not always like what we see, but if we can learn from it that’s really all that matters. Expressing yourself, sharing your thoughts, getting it out there helps relieve the inner struggles as you suddenly feel like you’re not dealing it with alone.
My hope is that by sharing my experience, perhaps those who are reading this blog or watching the video can find some peace knowing they’re not the only one going through it and that there are ways to overcome the negativity associated with a separation or divorce.
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