After 13 years of marriage I have found myself adjusting to life as a single father of three kids.
What prompted me to start a blog about it? Well, in the short time I’ve been going through this, I’ve learned that my situation isn’t necessarily the norm. Unlike many divorced men with kids, my ex-wife and I actually get along quite well and continue to co-parent. You know, that’s the first time I’ve written the term ex-wife. Kind of hit me as it flowed through my mind, down my arms and through the keyboard onto the screen. It’s quite a change and quite an adjustment. I honestly never thought this was going to be my life.
As much as it hurts, I have to be honest and tell you there are positives as well. I also want to encourage any other men who are preparing to enter into the world of single fatherdome, that it doesn’t have to be all negative. It may be difficult to overlook a lot of the anger and frustration you’re experiencing, but if you put the kids as the primary focal point through all of this, everything else seems so unimportant.
My relationship with my kids is at an all time high. Thanks to a profound effort by my ex and myself to be positive through this whole thing, we managed to provide the kids with a fairly smooth transition and continue to do so to this day. Is it always easy? Hell no. But the benefits have been huge.
In the coming days, weeks and months I’ll share more of my experience with you and would love to hear from those of you going through the same experiences. Share your fears, worries, concerns etc. and we’ll do our best to help you see the benefits of staying positive and not letting the little things get in the way of getting you through to the other side.